Change of design

As many of you can see I have now decided on a 3 column template, but please I ask that you are patient with me as I continue to update it and get it the way I want to, unfortunately being a downloaded template you will notice above in the header that it has a home, about me, another link sections, well, ha, don't worry about clicking on them, I can't get them to do anything and I can't seem to remove them either, but fear not I will get everything right soon.

In the mean time I really hope that my blogs have been of some help to some and a bit of inspiration for others. I will be back shortly with more insight and tips etc etc, in the mean time smile, be happy and be inspired to be the very best you can be...

Starting Your Day the RIGHT Way

The morning is the most important time of the day. Why? - Because it can easily set the mood for the rest of your day! - This is due to many reasons. One of the most significant is that it is much easier (scientifically, almost 25 times easier) to develop short term paradigms (viewpoints) upon first waking up.

When you first awaken, your mind is slowly leaving the delta state, (low brain wave frequency) where it is most easily influenced by mental suggestion. In other words, your mind is most open – and what you put in it will stay in it, until at least the end of the day.

It is for this reason that often, if you are awakened by a sound or a song, you may be able to easily recall it again and again throughout the day (even if it’s a song you cannot stand!). That being said, it is absolutely critical that you start your day off on the “right side of the bed.” Any negative thoughts you have will shape your subconscious for the entire day.

Realize, if you wake up and say “Sh*t… today’s gonna suck…”, then it will suck! - Your subconscious would be imbued with a belief that “today sucks” and would work with your mental filtering systems and all of your senses to perceive information accordingly. There’s a lot to it, but the point of this article is to give you a list of tips to start your day off the right way… so back on track. We know you’re busy as #%$! In the morning and don’t have time for therapeutic, two hour spa sessions when you’re trying to get to work or class on time.

Therefore, this list is as “grounded” as is possible, and you can start using it – Now. Also, for the record, we DO use every single one of these ourselves.

1. Initial Wakeup
GET UP! FAST! When you wake up, get out of bed as fast as you can! (without sending yourself into cardiac arrest, of course.) Waste no time in getting up. The best cure for procrastination is action – so if you’re procrastinating about getting out of bed, just force yourself to get up! …and wallah! - Problem solved! Jumping out of bed will spike your metabolism, and will end all thoughts of “just lying there” a little bit more. As an added bonus, I put my alarm clock on the other side of the room – forcing me to jump out of bed and go turn it off… and once I’m out, I stay out!

2. Light
The power of light is severely underestimated by most people. How? It has profound effects upon body chemistry and energy levels. You circadian rhythm (based on light levels) affects nearly all aspects of your physiology. Over 200 processes are controlled by the level of and type of light that you receive, including heart rate, digestion, appetite and thirst, fluid balance, stress level, emotions, immunity, hunger, energy, blood pressure, body temperature, physical strength, reaction times, sexual appetite, urine production and brain balance – just to name a few. Bright, natural light is ideal for bringing the most energy to all these systems. The more light you receive, the more serotonin your pineal gland produces – a “feel good” neurotransmitter. The less light received, the more melatonin your pineal gland produces. Melatonin is essentially a depressant / sedative. This explains why humans living in Spain are some of the most upbeat, positive beings on the planet, where as residents in Norway or Russia are some of the most depressed. Your body makes melatonin at night, and makes serotonin during the day. So, the sooner you turn on the lights, or open the blinds preferably, the sooner your body’s systems will increase their energy levels. The longer you keep it dark, the harder it will be to wake up – that simple.

3. Wake Up to a Clean Room
This one may not seem that significant, but believe me – it is. Waking up to a clean, organized room has a positive first impression upon your mind. Waking up to clutter, dirty clothes, and piles of beer cans from the night before does not. This may seem like a bit of a feng shui thing, but give it a try, and you will realize – it does work. It’s easier to vacate a room when it’s clean, pristine, and relatively organized / empty, versus one that is piled high and more “cozy.” Keep your room stark… put things away from you’re done using them. It will help.

4. Fresh Air Open the window.
No matter what season it is. Open the window… even if it is just a crack. Your bedroom has sat stagnant all night, void of fresh air, especially if you leave your door closed as I do. When you open the window (and the door preferably) you create a cross draft to bring in fresh air. You have lowered the oxygen level by rebreathing the same air in the room at night. However, as soon as you open the window, you bring in fresh air with high oxygen levels – instantly raising your energy level. Even if it is 10 degrees out, open the window just a tad. When it’s cold out, it will have even more of an effect – the cool, denser air will carry more oxygen, and the temperature alone will help you to awaken.

5. Music
Music is a huge part of my morning. Even if you are not musically motivated, music can shape your mornings. Turn on music as soon as you can after waking up. Make sure it is something positive and uplifting – as chances are it may become stuck in your head for the rest of the day. Personally, I love pounding trance in the morning – it’s positive, uplifting chords and driving bass last with me all day. Make sure you’re listening to something that pulls you up… not down. The effect of music upon the brain is something we will discuss down the road – stay tuned. Also, if music is not available, any high frequency sound chords can work. Birds chirping, wind chimes, ect – all help awaken and sooth the mind.

6. Food
Start your morning off with a full glass of water before you eat anything else – This is essential. Toxins have been ejected from tissue and line your throat and mouth (thus, morning-breath) and the last thing you want to do is to allow them to adhere to your breakfast. Drink a full glass of water –and give it ten minutes. If you have an empty stomach, the toxins will be flushed down, and pass out with your urine, with no food to absorb them. Ten minutes later, you may eat your breakfast. The subject of a healthy breakfast is obviously a lengthy subject, but I’ll be brief – DO NOT SKIP BREAKFAST. They’re not lying when they say it’s the most important meal of the day. Your body has been starved for eight hours or more, and breakfast is crucial. Breakfast jumpstarts your metabolism, ends your body’s “hoarding mode” from the night, and will actually help you lose weight and stay lean if you chose the proper foods. Make sure you eat some fruit, some protein, and some carbs. My typical weekend breakfast consists of an orange and three scrambled eggs… very basic, but quite healthy. If you’re eating loads of sugary cereal, or worse, doughnuts for breakfast, you need to go do some basic research online on how to eat healthy. You could be lean and good looking, but lack energy, and your arteries may be 90% blocked – as a result of your diet.

7. Cold shower - Take a cold shower.
Yes, freezing cold is unbearable. You don’t have to do it that way. Start it off hot… like me. Then, after you’re medium-toasty (not well-toasty... it will make you more tired), put it on cold for as long as you can take it. Then, put it on hot for a minute… then cold for a minute. Repeat the hot-cold cycle a few times – this will not only wake you up fast, but it will expand and contract your pores to force out toxins and oils from the night. End the shower with a cold rinse – you want to be cold when you step out… it’s critical, as it will raise your metabolism, and keep it there. Try the cold shower thing for a week – you’ll notice a difference. A long, hot shower depresses your physiological systems and makes you want to go back to bed. A cold, invigorating shower will wake you up – fast. Try it.

8. Make Your Bed
This doesn’t serve as much of a purpose for in the morning, as it does for in the evening. I’ll explain how it works from my situation. I wake up. I do my morning routine. I (in this example) do not make my bed. I leave. I work all day, and at the end of the day, I think of all the projects that I am going to work on when I get home. However, when I get home into my room, I suddenly feel tired… there’s something drawing me to my bed. The covers are thrown back – like a great, yawning mouth of gaping comfort… calling for me to dive in after a long day at work. So I do – I jump in, cover up, get all toasty, and sleep away half of my evening – only to go to bed again a few hours later. Leaving your bed unmade kills your motivation. Not only does it appear messy, which drains your energy in its own right, but it also invites you back in repeatedly, when you usually cannot afford to. So, make your bed. You’ll notice you get more things done in the evening.

9. Time Savers
There are several small, simple things you can do to save time in the morning. For one, if you check your computer in the morning (MySpace, Facebook, email, stocks, weather, ect), then try this. Rather than shutting down your computer at night, put it in standby. You will save a few minutes over turning it on, and it won’t use any more electricity. If it takes your computer four minutes to boot up, multiplied over a year, that is over 24 hours! An entire day you would save if you followed the routine everyday. Another rather obvious tip is to put all your “to-go” items in one spot. Put your phone, wallet (or purse), watch, rings, notepad, ID badge, car keys, ect; all on the same part of the counter, or in a bowl perhaps. It will save you time searching for everything. Additionally, whatever time you are waking up now, wake up ten minutes earlier. It makes a world of difference in the morning. If you can get over the “I could sleep for ten more minutes” thinking, you will reap amazing benefits. Ten minutes can take a lot of the edge off of your morning, allowing you to take your time as you go about your routine. It can save you money as well. I can tell you in my case that if I leave a few minutes early, rather than driving 80 MPH to make it to work on time, I can drive 65-70 MPH, which, due to exponential drag and air resistance, is optimum gas mileage speed for my car, and saves me a few bucks each week in gas.

10. Self-Talk
Self-Talk should be the most important part of any morning routine. In the morning, you need to load yourself with as much positive mental programming as possible. Your mind is most receptive to it in the morning (and at night), and it will shape the rest of your day. Your programming comes in many different forms, and it is our job to help you use it to your advantage. Mental programming is too much for this article… keep your eyes on us as we come out with new products to help you shape your mind exactly the way you want it – and help you live the life you deserve.

Only You

I got the following words sent to me via an email and thought about how true these words are and they are to good to keep to myself...

A person can make you feel high,

A person can make you feel low.

But only you can decide,

Which way you want to go.

A person can hurt you mentally,

A person can hurt you physically.

But only you can place,

A limit on your abilities.

A person can cause drama,

A person can cause a situation.

But only you can create,

Your own reputation.

A person can make you laugh,

A person can make you cry.

But only you can make,

Decisions for your life.

So Don't live by what people do,

But live by what you know is true.

Discover the Passion Within You

The benefit of continued focus on spirituality information is that you are eventually led to the individual passion that lies within you. Part of the process of your spiritual growth is to discover this passion and then bring it forth and live your passion. Some people are guided to discover their passion early in the human life process. We have all heard of child prodigies who have developed musical skills at a very early age and, along with those skills, they have a deep burning desire to develop and demonstrate those skills. That is passion demonstrated.

Well, we all have something like that within us. We all have our own song within us that yearns to be heard and demonstrated. We all have a particular aspect of love that we have chosen before birth that we are being guided by throughout our lives. What is your passion? There are as many ways to demonstrate love as there are people on the planet. We are like snowflakes.

From afar we all look just like snow but the closer we examine the snow the more we come to understand that every snowflake has its own unique signature. We all have our particular way to demonstrate that unique aspect of our beingness that can only be manifested in our own unprecedented manner. No two snowflakes are alike. No two passions are exactly the same.

There is room in this world for all the snowflakes and there is room in this world for all the passions. We have our overall purpose in life and we also have a more specific purpose in life.

Our overall purpose in life is to just experience the life process, in the physical relative world, in order for God to know, through our experiences, all that she knows of as concepts. That is our mission. That is our way to occupy the space and develop the skills and the capacity to fulfill our larger purpose. This overall purpose is the backdrop on our stage of life upon which we are to develop, nurture and refine our more specific purpose. We chose our specific purpose before birth. It is in this inborn privatized mission that we are continually being guided by the omnipresent organizing force that brings to us those people, places and information that we need to develop the specific purpose that we chose before birth.

Let's take a look at the big picture again. One of the huge dichotomies that is part of this eternal life process is this simple, yet incredibly complex, concept that we voluntarily forget that we are a spirit child of God before we re-enter the physical universe. When you look at this concept from the bigger picture of life, you can understand how this would be a necessary element to make the whole process work.

If God's purpose were to experience all the different aspects and perspectives of herself that she only knows of conceptually, then she would have to have the true freedom to do that. Let's look at the alternative to this voluntary amnesia. If we, as spirit children of God, just entered this physical plane via our human birth and were raised and nurtured as pure Gods and Goddesses, knowing from the very outset of our cognitive stage of life that we are a spirit child of God, then that is all we would know. If we already knew, in our consciousness, all there is to know then what is left to experience? We would always make the most correct choices because we would always know the natural consequences of not doing so. We wouldn't be able to choose to be who we are because we would already be who we really are, spirit children of God.

So here's the dichotomy. Even though we would be limitless beings, who know that they are spirit children of God with all of the same powers and abilities and knowledge of God, that very knowingness would actually limit us in our stated purpose of experiencing in the physical plane all that God knows as concepts in the absolute plane. We wouldn't choose to have the craziness and dramas that develop and define ourselves. We wouldn't chose sickness or death and we therefore would not have those experiences. You see, you can't appreciate the concept of good health without experiencing the concept of poor health. It is this relationship world of polar opposites that allows us to experience life in all of its different perspectives, from one extreme to the other.

If you know all there is to know, including the natural consequences of your actions, then even with free will you wouldn't chose those experiences that would be harmful or not beneficial to your overall good. That is the beauty of this voluntary amnesia that we agree to when we choose to re-enter the physical relative universe.

You still have free will, but now you are totally at choice as to what you choose to experience. Each choice you make still brings you the natural consequence of that choice, whether it is what we term bad or good. Now it is entirely up to you to determine which natural consequences serve you and which do not serve you. It is your choice. It has always been your choice.

REST AND SLEEP

All the parts of the human body work together, although each one has its especial part to do. The stomach must have a time to rest between meals. The other parts of the body require rest, too. This they usually get while we are asleep. We must not be neglectful and fail to give them enough rest, or they will soon get worn out and give us trouble.

Sometimes, when people are not well or are all tired out, they find they cannot sleep well at night. There are a number of little things that can be done to induce sleep. A warm bath before retiring, followed by a gentle massage, especially along the spine, often will, by relaxing the nerves and muscles, produce very good results. A hot foot bath, which draws the blood away from the brain, frequently will be found beneficial. A glass of hot milk or cocoa, taken just before retiring, often will have the same effect. If the sleeplessness is a result of indigestion, a plain diet will relieve. Sleeping upon a hard bed without any pillow sometimes produces the desired effect. Always have plenty of fresh air in the room. Keep the mind free from the cares of the day. If they will intrude, crowd them out by repeating something else some soothing sentence or bit of poetry. One good plan is to close the left nostril by pressing on it with the finger, then take four deep breaths through the right nostril. Then close the right nostril and take four deep breaths through the left one. Repeat this about four times. Then breathe slowly through both nostrils, but count your breaths. You seldom will count very many. Never take any sleeping powders or tablets except upon the advice of a physician, for they usually contain drugs that will injure the heart.

You will find that you will meet a number of men who are nervous, which means they have not control of their nerves, but let them run away with them. Sometimes this is shown in palpitation of the heart, headache, backache, and many other disorders. There may be a tendency to cry at trivial things, or a feeling of having "the blues." The cause usually can be found in uncongenial surroundings or occupation, loss of friends, or real or fancied troubles. Whatever the cause, it should be removed, if possible, and measures taken to restore the worn out nerves that are crying for rest or food. Tonics help, so does nourishing food, such as eggs and milk; also a change of scene and occupation, if possible. A man who is nervous frequently does not realize what is the cause of his condition, and considers only the symptoms. So when he has a headache, resorts to medicine. In taking these she only is deadening the pain and not removing the cause, so the pain is liable to return.

What Change Really Requires

I have done so much research and reading articles on Self-Help because I desperately wanted to make personal changes in my life, but what I have discovered is that if you are serious about making lasting changes in your life, you have to really go and dig deep into your life and rediscover your authentic self. And in order to do this you need to ask yourself questions – hard questions and you need to be completely honest with yourself when answering, so I recommend getting a book, writing the questions down and answering them, but obviously this book is meant to be private so hide it away if you don’t want anyone taking a peek.

You need to take a serious look at yourself and figure out what you really and truly want in life and if you haven’t got what you want, then why haven’t you got what you want? For some it might be “circumstances”, abuse, shyness, low-self esteem, little or no self-confidence etc. For me it was a low self esteem (due to physical and mental abuse from a partner), and very little self-confidence. But as I started to dig deeper, I realized that the self esteem was a problem before the abusive partner (because had I, had the healthy self esteem I would never have let him treat me the way he did and for so long). So that in itself forced me to dig deeper. Not always discovering the most pleasant of things but forcing myself to deal with them and move on, plenty of times I wanted to just forget about the hard questions and move on, but if you don’t deal with some of the hard stuff you’ll be stuck until you deal with it.

Once I started figuring out where everything started going off track I at least had an idea as to why I am who I am today and why I choose the behaviours I choose and that is the point where you start to make the necessary changes in your life. When you look back you will see certain “situations” and the choices you made, and being more mature now, you will see that often the choices you made were just plain dumb or stupid, I know because I’m talking from experience. Learn to give yourself some time before making a decision or choice about anything in your life because the choices you make are more than likely going to impact your life later on and learn to give yourself a chance in this life. Stop being so hard on yourself and expecting perfection in everything, I am convinced that 99.9% of us expect way too much from ourselves and when we don’t achieve what we want first time or something isn’t perfect the first time then we come down on ourselves like a ton of bricks, and the sad part is that many of you don’t realize you are doing it, it may be consciously or subconsciously. Take time to look at what is happening and why.

My saving grace came at a very low point in my life, I purchased a copy of the book
How to Manifest a Miracle by Gary Evans, mainly because I just wanted a damn miracle in my life, something to give me a reason to carry on living. Well I really want to recommend this book to anyone who isn’t living the life they truly want, because it was such an eye opener for me and the best part is that his step by step details are the easiest to follow, doesn’t take hours out of your day and when doing what he suggests you start to feel good about yourself again. This book now comes in a package with mp3 audio’s, worksheets, a workbook, videos etc and is an absolute awesome package for anyone wanting to change any part of their lives.

I am currently working with worksheets and books called Success Mindset Secrets which can be found at www.mindpowermarketing.com all I did was sign up for the free ecourse and books (under free stuff). The questions in the worksheets book are tough, some are a piece of cake but others are tough and requires a little digging into your past. I am not an affiliate for Mind Power Marketing, I don’t get a cent from them but I know that these books and worksheets can give you an idea of the kinds of questions you need to ask yourself. But at the same time I would urge you to purchase How to Manifest a Miracle by Gary Evans, it’s a low once off price that is worth it’s weight in gold if you are serious about changing your life.

Asking yourself the hard questions and rediscovering your authentic self and rediscovering your dreams is a life journey I would encourage you all to take, remembering there will be things you won’t particularly want to remember but it is essential for a change for the better. I am still on this life journey and enjoying every minute of it, because my life is changing in so many different ways in so many areas. All I can say is stop settling for second best, you deserve better and can have better.

Books available at:
How to Manifest a Miracle
www.mindpowermarketing.com

I sincerely hope that this article has given you the motivation or inspiration to go ahead and make the changes in order to live a more fulfilling life.

Changing Habits to Improve your Personal Life

Habits, oh those nasty habits. Habits are developed from training, influences, observation, and practice. We develop many habits throughout our life, which some are good and others are bad. Good habits we can keep, but if one wants to improve their life the bad habits has to take a hike. Getting rid of bad habits however is not easy, especially if an addiction is involved. For this reason, we can take a few steps to learning how you can change your habits.

Making excuses:
People wander through life making excuses. Anytime a person sees something complicated, they will often make excuses why they cannot deal with the problem. “This is just the way I am.” This is a common problem in the world, which we’ve all heard billions of times. If you are out to improve your life however, you need to say, “This is something that hinders me from achievement and I have the power to change it.

The first key to success is stop making excuses. Learn how to tell the truth. The truth is the only answer that leads you to improve your personal life. Once you learn to tell the truth, you will need to commit self to learning new behaviors and habits.

You can commit by choosing a new habit. Today I plan to drink more water. Some of us detest water, yet water is our way of living healthier. Instead of detesting something that will save your life, start saying, today I will drink more water. Even if you start out drinking a glass for the first couple of days, you are making changes.

Today I am going to stop judging others and myself. This is a common mistake people make in the world. They spend time judging others and themselves. This gets them nowhere but in a world of chaos. You make your bed, you must learn to sleep in it, which is why you should change your ways. Judging is only for our Master in the sky.

Do you think negative? I can’t change this. My life is full of nonsense, I can’t swing it anymore. Why me? Who put a tag on my head, saying persecute me. If you spend your life thinking negative and saying negative connotations, try changing your ways today. For instance, say, I can change something and I am going to. Instead of saying life is full of nonsense, accept it as truth yet move ahead to make your life better. Why me is a common question, which no one knows why, yet we have to accept it, make better decisions and move ahead. If you feel persecuted, ask you what you are doing that makes you feel this way. Do you have friends or family members weighing you down? If so, then kick their butt down the road and make new friends. No one in life is worth you suffering ongoing. You have the power to make changes, yet you do not have the power to change other people.

When you start to make changes to improve your life, start small. Instead of jumping the gun, take baby steps to success. Too many times people try to change overnight. This only leads to frustration.

When you are working to change your life and habits make sure you seek support and feedback. You do not have to walk the road to success alone. Feedback is found at your library, the Internet, at colleges, and so on. You will find support along these channels as well. Ask someone you trust to support you and give you feedback when needed also.

Accomplishing Your Dreams Requires Balance

Achieving balance in our lives is accomplished by saying no when we need to and learning to set boundaries and prioritizing. We cannot achieve balance without understanding what our particular needs are and therefore remembering that balance is different for everyone. It means that you have identified your priorities and have not overextended yourself. Balance means you are aware of the dangers of burnout. and that when asked the question, "Are you happy?" you can answer yes.

The following are 4 core values to live by

#1 No Guilt Allowed

One of the biggest struggles for women today is learning to say no without feeling guilty. Guilt will only hold you back from many of the goals you want to accomplish if you let it. Guilt doesn't make you a better mother, or employee, or even more fit. Most of us know this, yet we still allow ourselves to fester in guilt. Guilt actually creates an imbalance in your life because you are left with feelings of inadequacy.

From now on when guilt creeps into your life take action by noticing that the emotion is present and replace it with positive choices or joy as quickly as you can. As you retrain yourself to get rid of the guilt, you will notice how much easier it gets to move forward and accomplish your goals.

#2 Embrace Positive Choices

"The art of positive choices helps you to create the life you want. Positive choices help you to discover what truly makes you happy and realign your priorities. Life is a series of additions and subtractions. You control the calculator."
~ Gail McMeekin ~

Achieving balance in your life is being able to make positive choices. What are positive choices - these are choices that propel you forward, they benefit your mind, your body, and your soul. These choices allow you to feel productive and focused because they are in alignment with what you really want to do on a daily basis. And remember - how we live our days is indeed how we live our lives.

#3 Cultivating Moments of Pure Joy

"The worst sin-perhaps the only sin-passion can commit, is to be joyless."
~ Dorothy Sayers ~

One of the best things I personally ever did was follow my heart when EVERYONE else thought I was crazy. The first time I did this-I was scared, but at the time I was so miserable, I didn't really feel like I had a choice. From that experience I learned to trust my gut and I learned that to follow my dreams meant that I was the architect of my life and that it was actually up to me to cultivate moments of pure joy in my life. For me - that means I spend most of my time either doing what I want to, having fun or I am in the process of creating. Creating - for me is writing or helping others. To follow your dreams-you will have to take giant leaps and be willing to get your hands dirty before you learn how to cultivate a life full of joy.

#4 Practice Conscious Living

Another core value that will help you achieve balance is to practice conscious living.
People who achieve their dreams do it with a plan. They start out simply doing something they are passionate about, but eventually to achieve substantial results, they have to sit down and map out a plan. They make changes in their lives and begin to live in a very conscious way. They begin to pay attention to what they say yes and no to. They begin to choose how they react to negative people and situations. They begin to consciously choose to surround themselves with other people who had fun accomplishing their dreams. They decide to be disciplined about their choices and they also choose to consciously enjoy every moment they can going forward.

From today, begin to practice conscious living, make sure you aren’t living on autopilot. How do we know if we are on autopilot??? Sometimes making excuses or blaming others can be sign. Sometimes situations in our lives or behaviours learned in childhood can be why we don’t know how to live in a conscious way. I love the phrase “You do better when you know better”. Don’t look back, just look forward and don’t wait another minute, another day or another week or year to get busy living your life in a way that feels good or joyful to you.

Abusive Relationships - Are You In One?

Today I have decided to tackle a whole new topic, one that unfortunately is far too common now days and not reported enough. This is one place I too have been but for me I am not a victim but rather I survivor. I lost everything but I got out with my life and that’s what counts.

Without realizing how, in many cases a well-nurtured relationship too can take a dramatic and violent turn and become what is commonly known as an abusive relationship. Violence of any type, irrespective of whom it is aimed at, is an act to be abhorred.

Although men too are caught on the wrong side sometimes, in majority of the cases it is women who bear the brunt and suffer in abusive relationships. Such instances that often result in death have perpetrated even when the woman is known to be pregnant. It is an established fact that most of the violent crimes are committed by known people. It could be a boyfriend, husband, or a close associate. Admittedly, acts of violence against girls and women as a result of an abusive relationship are far greater in number as compared to those for men.

Abusive relationships have the potential of manifesting in different forms. Each one of them can prove to be more traumatic than the other. Physical violence in most cases is curable but the mental torture takes a bigger toll since it can emotionally break down a person. It plays havoc with the life of the victim and the results can be disastrous, causing depression and other related psychiatric problems. Extreme mental distress in its worst manifestation leaves indelible scars that in many cases are incurable.

The menace of abusive relationships, in the shape of the proverbial sword of Damocles looms large over girls and women of all ages. The saddest part of it all is that in majority of the cases, the oppressed hesitates to trust and confide in parents, friends, or associates with the situation she has been caught in. This could be due to fear of further antagonizing the oppressor or a feeling of being unprotected. In some cases, young women and girls keep on enduring an abusive relationship under the erroneous feeling of love toward the assailant.

Seeing the growth in such crimes against women, it is our bounden duty to educate our young daughters, sisters, and friends as to how to handle such situations. We need to instill in their minds that trying to hold on to a dead relationship will be of no benefit and that the best solution is to take corrective measures or get out of the relationship totally.

However, abusive relationships are not easy to notice. If you want to safeguard your daughter or friend against abusive relationships, you need to play a significant role. First of all be alert and try to analyze any substantial change in behavior in our loved ones. It is good to have a relationship that makes it easy for them to confide. Be sure to lend a sympathetic ear, support them, and help and protect them in all circumstances.

"Enlightenment" Your 7 days program to Positive thinking

I'm sure you have a bright idea hidden somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can't wait to test out. Of course you're not the only one with the bright idea. So what motivates you to churn those creative, or even inspiring juices to its utmost flavor?

It's always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV. A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.

Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you're just sitting in your favorite couch. An idea takes time to form in your head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.
Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are never thought possible.

1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is void.

This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.

2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The American Dream will always be there, but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins.

3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome. Every time you hit on something that may appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work. You will be surprised to see of there are other ways to get the task done in time. If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift.

4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way. Slipping into neediness will become less of a habit when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.

5. Use a Passion Formula of Recognize/Reevaluate/Restore in place of the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack. As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is just as important as giving out orders to your subordinates. You would rather be richly passionate!

6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up! I am yet to see a comedian ever go hungry even though his jokes are as 'old as great-grandma'. Life has so much to offer to allow you to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate: life-giving.

7. Believe that you are the architect of your destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you except for you! Create your life authentically. As long as there's still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime. The concept of thinking big is all about enjoying your work, which would lead to celebrate a discovery that is born within your hands. Watch everything flow into place with perfect, passionate precision.

It's interesting how people get wallowed up by something trivial as learning to use a computer, when nowadays that top computer companies are manufacturing software that even the kids can do it. I don't mean to be condescending, but that's the idea of not having any positive thinking in your life-you'll just end up as a dim bulb in a dark corner. So instead of subjecting yourself to what you will be doomed for, make your path by taking the first step with a positive attitude.